Ways of Thinking
in general have a different way of thinking...I've learned mine have an
extremely creative way of thinking".
Types of Distorted Thinking
Learn What They Live
Self-fulfilling Prophesy: a child will eventually
behave as we expect (not always the same as we desire)...
What do you really think about your child? Usually, what
we think about our children will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. A klutz
will be a klutz. A troublemaker will make trouble. I remember a woman
telling me how she was having difficulties in math when she was in
elementary school. Her mother said to her, "No one in our family is
good in math. I wasn't good at math, your father wasn't good at math, your
sister isn't good in math. No wonder you're having a hard time. I'm sure
you'll be good at something else." How much of a chance did she stand
to do well in math?
The three parts of the self-fulfilling prophecy triangle
- Assumptions - The assumptions people make
about children influence what they expect and how they treat them.
- Parent/provider's expectations and behavior -
if people expect the child to succeed, they'll put forth more effort.
- Child's reactions - if the child senses that
others believe in his abilities, he is most likely to succeed.
Adapted from: www.refresher.com/!pbtprophecy.html